it might be fair, it might be unreasonable. it might be well-intentioned, it might be hateful. it might be from a loved one, it might be from someone i barely know.
the feeling is one that my very core and dignity is being trampled on. yes, some personal space that is being infringed upon. all feelings of selflessness or higher consciousness evaporate at once.
and all i can think of is, please just give me a break. which i guess is a tad better than some kind of vengeful thought.
what about the times when i criticize others, purposely or by accident?
if it is well-intentioned and justified, at least from my perspective, overall and over time, it's supposed to do more good than any short term negative feelings? am i obligated to package it nicely so it's digestible? if they can't handle the truth, they are either just too thick or 太小器 and that is no fault of mine? and i'm the one taking the risk of jeopardizing the friendship, and it would have been easier for me just not to say anything than to speak out? thus they should be thankful, not spiteful?
and yes - so should i simply be thankful for criticism? but logic, as we know, doesn't necessarily always work.
