in real life we don't really have true opponents anymore - the only benchmark is ourselves and our ideals. and since we're so good at moving targets and rationalizing them, we do so, and we end up skipping practice. we first skip a couple sessions. then a couple months. then a couple years.
which is ok of course. until it's years later, and we are so far from our ideals, and we realize we haven't even really tried. and we wonder what the heck happened.